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Talking to Children about Adoption

A child’s feelings about adoption are complex. They effect every part of his self: personal identity, self-confidence, and their understanding of who they are, and where they came form. Understanding these thoughts, feelings, and responses can be challenging for both adoptees and adoptive parents. 
Being adopted can create many feelings of being different. Children need to understand that while adoption is wonderful, that it also involves loss and grief and that their birth parent’s decision to adopt was not about them.  They need to hear their parents discuss their feelings about adoption. Children need age appropriate information about their adoption and it needs to be addressed by the adoptive family in a positive way.
Here are a few resources to help you talk with your child about adoption: 

Talking with Kids About Adoption-What your kids want to know about their adoption, and how to talk about it.

Talking With Children About Adoption-Talking about adoption with your child can be daunting. Here, advice on what to say and when to say it.